Therapy for Low Self Esteem

Low Self Esteem is probably what I work with the most. As adults, we don’t always consider how early life and adolescent experiences impact us now. People will often be dismissive of things that happened in their childhood, saying it was ‘normal’ for that time. Things might have been ‘normal’, but that does not mean it didn’t have an adverse effect on you. As an example, you might have had parents who were not present, perhaps because they had to work a lot. As an adult, this makes complete sense as to why they were not around much. But as a child, you did not have the ability to understand why they were not present. All you noticed, is that they were not around much. This might have meant you wondered why this was, and as a child, begun considering if it was because of something you did.

You might not know it, but these experiences could have led to you developing an anxious attachment style, where if you notice anyone pull away you think they will leave. This in turn might lead to you developing ‘people pleasing’ tendencies, whereby you never put yourself first as you are always thinking about how to keep people close.

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If you come for therapy for low self esteem, I will work with you to help you make the connection between any earlier life experiences that might have contributed to you developing low self esteem. Once we have identified this, we will use the therapy for low self esteem to work through the beliefs you have about yourself and others, as well as identifying behaviours you might have, such as people pleasing, that feel helpful to you but might in fact be maintaining your low self-esteem.